You need to have reasons to quit beyond a girlfriend otherwise, you're in danger of doing what I did. If you only want to date because you want to use that as motivation to quit, I would suggest going through your 90 days first. I don't really know you, so I guess I'm going to offer some conditional advice. So I guess here's the part where I stop rambling and start to say some words that resemble advice. I'm quitting because I like the me that doesn't look at porn a lot better than the me who does. During my current attempt, I'm quitting for me. So when she broke up with me, I no longer had any motivation to stay away from porn. This meant, in my first attempt to quit, I was only quitting for my girlfriend. I had been placing a lot of my sense of self-worth into my relationship status. I'm mostly glad because it gave me some time to really think about who I was. I didn't really have a choice in this, since my current prospects are pretty slim, but I'm glad I made it through my 90 PMO-free days without dating. I decided to wait until I hit my 90 day mark before I would start thinking about dating. My second serious attempt to quit porn is the attempt that I'm currently on. After the breakup, I went back into porn pretty hard. About two years in, she broke up with me (I don't think she ever knew about the porn - this was unrelated).
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It wasn't actual porn at first (so I told myself), but it developed into porn about a year and a half into the relationship.
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I probably made it a year before porn started creeping back into my life. The relationship was really helpful for me, since it provided me with great motivation to quit.
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Shortly after beginning my first serious attempt to quit, I started dating a girl. And that's all for the sake of actually getting to feel that I actually have a chance with her, especially considering that I've been dealing with a lack of purpose in life for a long time, and the only thing keeping me going is my ''optimism'' or rather imaginations of having a future with her, since I can't seem to like any other girls, now my problem is that I think that it'd be too unusual and awkward to ask her out after such a long time, especially considering we never really even talked, I fear that I might come off as a creep or something along those lines.Īnyway sorry for the rambling, I know that all of this seems pathetic but I needed to vent.Click to expand.I'll share my experience, since I've (kind of) taken both approaches. Now it's been more than a year, and I still can't seem to get her out of my mind, there was a period of time where I thought I was able to let it go but the emotions just keep coming back and stronger too, I kid you not there are times where I just keep thinking about her 24/7, even now that I've changed from what I once was, I've become healthier, more outgoing, started hitting the gym, got rid of a porn addiction I've had etc. So in my final high school year there was this girl in my class that I had fallen for, at first she wasn't even on my radar, normally my shallow self would have crushes on flashy good looking girls for 2 weeks then move on, in her case things were different, I hadn't started having feelings her until halfway through the year, I started noticing that she's beautiful, smart and has a great great personality, now at that time I was (admittedly) a loser, a big one really, a social recluse who barely had any friends, shitty physique, insecure about pretty much everything, you get the idea, and of course that meant I was not able to talk to her, let alone be friends with her at least.